WHAT DOES PURPOSEFULLY PLANNED MEAN ANYWAY?

Like I say in my bio, there's been an organization tendency within me for as long as I can remember. But this idea of life organization and prioritizing my time isn't something that I sought out or did intentionally. And the idea that I can intentionally prioritize my time to focus on the most important things to me kind of just hit me in the face one day. 

The truth is, I can't do it all. Or I can, but I can't do it all well, or even kind of well. I can't be a good wife, mom, employee, housekeeper, chef, chauffeur, exercise goddess, small business owner, friend, auntie, sister, and daughter all at once. Trust me, I tried. And unless I want to be on 24/7, I can't give everything 100% right now, at this stage in my life. 

Hugely pregnant with baby #2 in August 2015 and realizing my easy life with one kid was about to be over. I went into labor that night! 

Hugely pregnant with baby #2 in August 2015 and realizing my easy life with one kid was about to be over. I went into labor that night! 

In the past year since our second daughter was born, I've learned to let some things go. Things that were taking up energy and time that I wanted to use elsewhere, and things that were low value to me. What is considered low value to me might be really high value to you, and that's cool. You have to decide what you want to spend your time on. 

Purposefully planned means that you are intentionally choosing the highest priorities in your day, how you want to spend your time, which tasks or chores you can outsource, and what can go right to hell because you're sick of it and it doesn't impact anyone else. It does not mean you turn into a magical unicorn who can conquer all. 

It means that you might say no to your friend's 14th direct sales party in the past six months because you don't want to buy anything and you want to spend that time with your kids. It means that you decide grocery delivery is right up your alley because spending a few hours at the grocery store with hundreds of your neighbors on one of your only work-free days is not happening. It might mean that you give up an hour of TV each night to work on a passion project, side business or self-care. 

Just take all my money, Instacart. Such a life saver for a busy weekend! 

Just take all my money, Instacart. Such a life saver for a busy weekend! 

Nobody else can decide how your time should be used, but you should decide what you want to prioritize in your life to make room for what will make you your happiest self. We only have a limited time here on Earth; why waste it doing things that you're "supposed to" do because it's what everyone else does?

That's my personal goal with this blog: to determine how to make room in my life for spending more time with my children while they're young and find a way to use my skills that is meaningful to me, which means I need to make some moves professionally and personally. This blog is a starting point for my personal journey to that freedom, and I hope it will result in a positive change for me!